Triangular Theory of Love (Sternberg, 1986)
Love consists of three basic components:
Intimacy- feelings that promote closeness
Passion- sources of arousal that promote the experience of passion
Commitment- decision to maintain the relationship
Intimacy, passion and commitment are present (high or low) in all relationships.
Liking- high intimacy, low passion and commitment
Infatuation- high passion, low intimacy and commitment
Fatuous love- high passion and commitment, low intimacy
Empty love- high commitment, low passion and intimacy
Companionate love- high intimacy and commitment, low passion
Romantic love- high intimacy and passion, low commitment
Consummate love- high intimacy, passion and commitment
Passionate love— characterized by intense longing for a complete union with the love partner.
Companionate love— may be lower in passion but describe a deep connection but describes a deep connection with the person with whom the partner’s life is deeply intertwined.
Passionate love WILL NOT LAST. It is made to fade. It is just a base you should begin with to work toward a more secure, stable type of love such as companionate.
Colors of Love (Lee, 1973)
Primary Love Styles
Eros- Passion and strong attraction to the physical appearance of the other
Storge- companionate love that develops from friendship
Ludus- playful, short-term love
Secondary Love Styles
Mania- a mix of Eros and Ludus- a dependent and possessive love style
Pragma- a mix of Storge and Ludus- a logical and practical love style
Agape- a mix of Eros and Storge- an altruistic love style